| The
Daffodil Principle
Author Unknown
Several times my daughter had telephoned to
say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils
before they are over." I wanted to go,
but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to
Lake Arrowhead.
"I
will come next Tuesday," I promised,
a little reluctantly, on her third call.
Next
Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had
promised, and so I drove there.
When
I finally walked into Carolyn's house and
hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said,
"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road
is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there
is nothing in the world except you and these
children that I want to see bad enough to
drive another inch!"
My
daughter smiled calmly and said, "We
drive in this all the time, Mother."
"Well,
you won't get me back on the road until it
clears, and then I'm heading for home!"
I assured her.
"I
was hoping you'd take me over to the garage
to pick up my car."
"How
far will we have to drive?"
"Just
a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll
drive. I'm used to this."
After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where
are we going? This isn't the way to the garage!"
"We're
going to my garage the long way," Carolyn
smiled, "by way of the daffodils."
"Carolyn,"
I said sternly, "please turn around."
"It's
all right, Mother, I promise. You will never
forgive yourself if you miss this experience."
After
about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small
gravel road and I saw a small church. On the
far side of the church, I saw a handwritten
sign that read, "Daffodil Garden."
We got out of the car and each took a child's
hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path.
Then,
we turned a corner of the path, and I looked
up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious
sight. It looked as though someone had taken
a great vat of gold and poured it down over
the mountain peak and slopes.
The
flowers were planted in majestic, swirling
patterns-great ribbons and swaths of deep
orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink,
saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored
variety was planted as a group so that it
swirled and flowed like its own river with
its own unique hue. There were five acres
of flowers.
"But
who has done this?" I asked Carolyn.
"It's
just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She
lives on the property. That's her home."
Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house
that looked small and modest in the midst
of all that glory. We walked up to the house.
On
the patio, we saw a poster; "Answers
to the Questions I Know You Are Asking"
was the headline. The first answer was a simple
one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The
second answer was, "One at a time, by
one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little
brain." The third answer was, "Began
in 1958."
There
it was, The Daffodil Principle. For me, that
moment was a life-changing experience. I thought
of this woman whom I had never met, who, more
than forty years before, had begun-one bulb
at a time-to bring her vision of beauty and
joy to an obscure mountaintop. Still, just
planting one bulb at a time, year after year,
had changed the world. This unknown woman
had forever changed the world in which she
lived. She had created something of ineffable
(indescribable) magnificence, beauty, and
inspiration.
The
principle her daffodil garden taught is one
of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals
and desires one step at a time-often just
one baby-step at a time-and learning to love
the doing, learning to use the accumulation
of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time
with small increments of daily effort, we
too will find we can accomplish magnificent
things. We can change the world.
"It
makes me sad in a way," I admitted to
Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished
if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five
or forty years ago and had worked away at
it 'one bulb at a time' through all those
years. Just think what I might have been able
to achieve!"
My
daughter summed up the message of the day
in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow,"
she said. It's so pointless to think of the
lost hours of yesterdays.
The
way to make learning a lesson of celebration
instead of a cause for regret is to only ask,
"How can I put this to use today?"
We
convince ourselves that life will be better
after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't
old enough and we'll be more content when
they are. After that, we're frustrated that
we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly
be happy when they are out of that stage.
We
tell ourselves that our life will be complete
when our spouse gets his or her act together,
when we get a nicer car, when we are able
to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.
The
truth is there's no better time to be happy
than right now. If not now, when? Your life
will always be filled with challenges. It's
best to admit this to yourself and decide
to be happy anyway.
Happiness
is the way. So, treasure every moment that
you have and treasure it more because you
shared it with someone special, special enough
to spend your time with... and remember that
time waits for no one.
So,
stop waiting...
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die
There
is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And, dance like no one's watching.
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