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February 7, 2003

Hi Kathy. Here is a copy of a letter we just sent to our online support group. Let us know if this increases your survey results! We are TRYING to help.

Dear Friends,

The web site www.abuseconsultants.com has a new survey that you can fill out and remain anonymous. They want OUR opinions on how T's can be more helpful to those of us with DID/MPD! That's GREAT as far as we are concerned! Please go there and at least look at the survey and if you feel the urge, please fill it out, as that can be a big help to ALL of us with DID/MPD. The questions are thought provoking and interesting, and we feel like anything we can do to help the DID/MPD cause is worth doing! There are also sites there to post your poetry and writings (while maintaining your privacy), a kids’ place where your littles can go and play, and an art room too, where you can post drawings and paintings. Go wander around and tell us what you think, ok? THANKS.

Safe warm gentle hugs,

Sheryl of The Phoenix Factor

January 25, 2003

I know posting poetry is very time consuming. I think the poetry part of this wonderful site is the most helpful mentally for me. Because when people send you thier writings someone manually puts them in the right place. This to me was such an overwhelming experience because someone other than myself thought my feelings were worth reading. I post my poetry at other sites but.....it's not the same because I put it there. But when I came here and saw my words on your site it made me cry. Because someone else thought my words were important! What a feeling!!!! Thank You Kathy God Bless

Sandy

January 5, 2003

Hi.

I don’t know how your site came to me; I’m thinking someone gave you my email address. I guess that doesn’t matter. I am not in need of in-depth therapy now, having gone through years of healing work for sexual and ritual abuse. I would, however, like to contribute some of my poetry, and would like to know a little more about what you would do with it first. I am very open to sharing, as it is my strong belief that in the same way I felt connection through others’ work, someone may benefit from my words. It is, as you say, very healing.

Great site! I feel the gentle and understanding vibrations in your site. You seem to have mastered the way we need to go through our process. I cannot fathom the work you went through to get it the way it is, but somehow those of you involved have managed to integrate your understanding of our needs, your knowledge, and your depth of caring into the site itself. Bless you.

Warmly,

Lin

January 4, 2003

Hi,

We are a 52 year old female with at least 42 alters. We are on medicaid and cannot afford counseling, but we would be willing to answer questions if it will help you treat others. We did spend six years in intensive therapy, so we are fairly stable right now. We would welcome the opportunity to assist you so that you can better help others like us. DID/MPD has been misunderstood for so long, and it makes us feel like if we tell people we are DID/MPD they look at us like we are crazy. We think Hollywood is mostly to thank for the publics misconceptions. Maybe what you are doing may lead to better understanding by your group, and the public in general.

Sincerely,

Sheryl of The Phoenix Factor

January 1, 2003

Dear Kathy,

Thank You for allowing me and others to feel that we are important. That our words and hearts are worth so much more than what our abusers wanted for us to think.

I was visiting the music room on your website and saw a question that said " What is the first step of your dream"?

I thought a minute and said writing the poem below was my first step. Admitting that I felt so sad that I wanted to die. I needed to know I could release the anger and that it was ok to write these words. Without fear! This was the first step of my dream.

No More Tears

Thank you and God Bless
~Sandy~

December 29, 2002

Hello:

I was sent your web site by a friend. I am a survivor of ritualistic abuse, and also am an activist in this area. My web site is www.didsrasurvivors.com.

Also, I am working as a Project Coordinator for a new group that is being formed called 'Trauma and Abuse Care Group International' (TACGI). The objectives of this group are: 1) to form an international organization in this area, and 2) to build a network of survivor homes and treatment centers.

Our approach is a bit unique in that we are focusing on bringing together both professional therapists and religious groups like Christian Pastoral Counselors, clergy, etc., under one umbrella organization.
It is our belief that there is a huge benifit to survivors and clinicians alike to having the support of the local religious community that the survivor lives in. We have found that there is a great deal of support available in the i.e. Christian Community, and that there is also unique counseling services within this Community. This will be under the TACGI Christian Group (a TACGI sub-group).
However, being aware that some survivors are not comfortable with any religious group, we are also forming a TACGI Professional Therapist/Multi-disciplinary Group (a TACGI sub-group) that will deal with this strictly from a secular professional perspective.
(*Board members from TACGI boards are from all over North America).

Also, I live in Alberta, Canada, and am involved in a local project to build several survivor homes.

I applaud your efforts to build this web site and provide on-line help to survivors.

David

December 27, 2002

I wrote a book recently about your topic--maybe it would interest you: http://www.geocities.com/twokatzmom/.

The novel, Slide Down My Cellar Door, is about family violence and pedophilia.

December 27, 2002

This is a terrific website. Please check out mine: The Alliance for the Treatment of trauma and dissociation. http://www.netreach.net/~alliance . Is there any way I can be helpful to you, be a consultant, etc.?

thanks.

Sheila Fox Sherwin

December 27, 2002

I shall be reading your newsletters very carefully; I have not yet accepted my Diagnosis completely and I am still very much in the dark; I have been "waking up" now, sense the year of 1993. I am still beginning to learn more and more about myself; it still hurts very deeply to see all of my children as adults, when they were very young when I first began to go "to sleep"......God bless you

CM

December 25, 2002

I am an old multiple who has been in therapy since February of 1990. I am still in therapy, but doing much better this year as compared to past years. I heard about this newsletter and the site "Abuse Consultants [AbuseConsultants.com]". I am working for the first time in 5 years and it feels good, but exhausting.
The body is female, however I have been the head of family for almost 4 years now. Our females have abdicated any control over to myself and a few others, all of whom I truly appreciate. For the first time ever, we are finally having some cooperation and harmony in living and it feels so good to be able to go out and remember what we did the whole time we were out. Our therapists say they see us slowly blending together as more and more of the wounds of the past have healed.
Well, I guess that is enough for now.
Regards,
Thomas

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I
set you apart"
Jeremiah 1:5

"For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."
Ephesians 2:10

God doesn't make junk.

December 25, 2002 "Business Trauma Group"

Hi there this is John Roberts,

I got your interesting email about your services this morning, Christmas morning, Merry Christmas by the way.

This email is to inform you of the new Charity and web site that is being formed in the UK for the families of traumatised victim and survivors of PTSD and Abuse from what ever source. I have been living with PTSD for the last 30 plus years and after recovering and qualifying as a therapist working with PTSD suffers I have worked with traumatised clients and their families for the last 10 years. Since my wife and I came back to live in England we have been working to set up this Charity (Family Trauma Group) to help and assist traumatised families who have or are suffering from secondary PTSD on a day to day basis.

We are opening the first family dedicated Trauma Centre in the UK in the year 2003, in Wigan in Lancashire England.

This information is given to you, so that you may be wish to add us to your date base for any hands on assistance in England.

We recruit volunteers from our clients families and trained them at no cost to themselves to a very high standard, to be able to assist other families who may come to us for assistance, so the first contact point is a volunteer who is trained and also a recovering survivor of PTSD in the family.

This is a very empathic approach and enables the suffering to feel they are really being listen too by a fellow suffer who has been through the mill themselves. All of our volunteers are given very good supervision by qualified therapeutic supervisors to ensure their own safety and well being.

We also run courses where we teach families and Medical professionals how to cope with traumatised clients and we are also a reference point for information on PTSD and other high anxiety disorders. As such we could add your web site to our information database.

So that is a brief run down on what is up and coming in the Uk over this next one year period. Best regards for now

John Roberts. Dip.Cons. and Valerie Roberts Chairperson FTG.

December 25, 2002

The site I find professionally set up, polished and thoroughly appealing. The colours and form-work, I consider excellent and reassuring to the eye. There are no piercing colours or as I would describe "loud and threatening" colours i.e. sharp bright red, deep green / blues. The colours seem pastel and soothing.

The information I was able to review is informative, the "Jigsaw" pieces very important. In many instances I find having been a Consultant in Trauma for over 30+ years these 'jigsaw' pieces are exactly what is happening within the patients (Survivors) minds.

It is when the trigger of the traumatic image / memory / event is sparked off these 'jigsaw' pieces are scattered, and it is our role as Doctor's / Specialist's and Consultants to collect all these pieces together and help the individual piece them together to complete the whole picture. Thus returning individuals back to their former confident selves.

I thank you for your request, and return an honest reply for your attention. Please feel free to make contact at any time.

I attach an article "There's Nothing Wrong With Me". I wrote this for both the Parachute Regiment and South Atlantic Medal Association. The article I wrote to assist all Serving and Ex. Service personnel. The article is used now to explain to all spouses and children of Military and EMS personnel what PTSD is like, and why personnel can sometimes feel the way they do. Please feel free to post this on your site if you deem it worthy. The Trauma Centre (Wales) website is being revamped at present, and hopefully I will advise our Webmaster to add a link to your site if this meets with your approval!

Once again, thank you for your request, and we at this Trauma Centre (Wales) wish you well with your new venture. Have a Merry Christmas and a Peaceful and Prosperous New Year.

Yours sincerely,
David Bennett (Director)
Trauma Centre (Wales)
Tel: +44(0) 1792 521063
Website: http://www.trauma999.co.uk

December 25, 2002

Dear Friend,

I haven't used this site as yet and I hadn't even thought of doing something nice for myself...or the others. That was quite kind. The first thing I did was visit the site.

I'm visiting the creative expressions first. I'm starting up a self-help group 3D for people who wish to express, using artistic means. The people I'm working with are poverty stricken, so I'm approaching companies for donations-in-kind, so that all the supplies will be free. I have a computer, but not everybody does. I find that being able to express creatively really lifts that hard to get at emotion (baggage) and leaves room for all kinds of good stuff.

Feel free to visit my site. I've won awards for how far I've come on my journey.

http://home.golden.net/~proulx/Musings.html

Merry Christmas,

Anne

December 24, 2002

Your information appears to be very valuable in reference to my present mental status; I have been DX. with DID earlier this year by my Therapist, and am in need of any information that I can receive; I am a 53 y/o Female. Thank you.

CM

December 10 , 2002

Thank You so much for this site. Kathy left a link in my guestbook so I decided to check it out. I was so pleased to find a lot of the answers to my questions through the Effects of trauma through sexual abuse article. It has helped me a great deal. I feel the ones around me will now know why my actions are not quite like everyone elses. I write alot of poetry it helps me to release the emotions that I have without hurting myself. I was sexually and physically abused by my father untill my early teens. Now I'm 40 I lived in fear untill he died. ( March 12, 2000) I'm not afraid anymore.

God Bless You

Sandy

November 14 , 2002

wow k u guys have done a lot.) we are cheating and tellin u this way instead of emailin. we're going to have ta write u feedback some time soon) us

ecrew

September 16, 2002

What a wonderful website. Congratulations!

I like your 'greetings' - a great introduction to a monumental project. Your website will be a Godsend to severe trauma sufferers and their supporters when word gets round. The jigsaw sites, so far, are excellent - friendly, warm and caring as well as being informative and helpful. I found the 'Counseling' jigsaw and all its sub-sections enlightening and the 'Clinical Sample' in DID did more to make me aware of how dissociate states operate than anything I'd read or heard.

I wish you every success in your remarkable achievement.

B.B.